All is quiet in the world of Red

Firstly where have all the bloggers gone? Everyone I’m following hasn’t blogged in ages and I’m starting to feel slightly alone out here!

Back to the real world: I have come back from my holiday. Back from all my home friends I grew up with, back to work and a slightly segregated life. I still don’t know nearly enough people around here and am getting pretty bored.

I can’t afford the travel to see the woman I’m romancing and for me and my short sightedness that’s more than enough to kill a relationship. To make matters worse in this sexless, more like friendship, soon to be fizzling out, relationship I am attending a major and very serious family event…how do I get my self into these situations?!?

On more interesting grounds an interesting, attractive work colleague has just joined our company and we spent all evening watching films and chatting (at work…my jobs very odd, don’t worry about it)

Red Out

A useful tip

Driving home to visit family up north my attention was drawn to a road sign…12 foot wide which simply read:

“DO NOT USE THE HARD SHOULDER”

Well thank you Mr road side sign writing man, if it wasn’t for your not so casual reminder I may have forgotten my years of driving experience, not to mention the highway code, and strayed into that lane which we all know is reserved for emergencies.

In fact I wish you were around more often to write me glaringly obvious notices, some from my visit could have included

“WARNING: Do not try to rekindle a relationship with the girl from home who messed you around”

“OBSERVE: Giving your best friends ex evil stares is not appreciated by anyone”

“CAUTION: Telling old girlfriends how amazing they were may annoy current partners”

“DANGER: Do not drunk text”


Where were you when I needed you most Mr road side sign writing man?

Life can kill…take a break

Trapped

I’ve heard of being getting trapped in a friend relationship when you really wanted more, but what about becoming trapped in an emotional, committed relationship when you just wanted some fun?

Maybe it is because we haven’t actually had “fun” yet…and the build up to “fun” is taking too long...

Picture this:

You date someone for a month or so, everything is going really well, you really click emotionally…great…but then they announce they believe in no sex before marriage… can you leave that relationship without seeming shallow and making it look like you were only after one thing?

I feel I am morally in a similar situation.

See I’ve built up trust, told her she’s beautiful, held her face in my hands while we kiss…but there still isn’t that spark…although I’m fairly sure she thinks there must be. But how can I end this now? Come to think of it… end what?

Things are bizarre we kiss to greet, go out, chat, watch a film at her place and that’s about it, maybe a bit more kissing at some point, but there is always a reason not to stay.

We are not officially in a relationship though (both have single Facebook statuses for all that’s worth) and don’t introduce each other as “boyfriend and girlfriend”.

She went for a meal with another bloke (who apparently is in a relationship).

Maybe I’m over thinking it, I’m pretty sure any other red blooded male would tell her to get lost…am I showing cowardice or kindness?

I’m off on annual leave for a few weeks to visit family…maybe it will just fizzle out.

Do these things fizzle?